“Why are you wasting your time doing that?”
“You don’t really think people are going to care about what you have to say, do you?”
These are just a few of the things my inner mean girl has been shouting in my ear this week.
Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve really made progress in my business. I’ve felt on fire and like I had a real purpose and a real plan. And I was going after it.
But then I let my guard down for a minute. In that minute, my inner mean girl started yapping. And… like with kids and puppies: give her an inch and she’ll take a mile.
Cue the eye rolling and face palms…
So there I was on Tuesday, minding my own business when my Inner Mean Girl started whispering doubts like: “Maybe this isn’t the right direction.”
She was talking about my business, and I actually took a minute to consider what she was saying. Which was my first mistake.
Before I knew what was happening, she was no longer whispering questions but was now all-out shouting derogatory attacks at me. Stuff that hit way below the belt. Stuff that has nothing to do with my business and yet has everything to do with me executing in my business.
Because you see, when she gets going, I become paralyzed. And I hide. And I start thinking it’s okay to not show up and slack off and eat those doughnuts.
But it’s not okay.
It’s not okay to stop showing up for myself.
It’s not okay to stop showing up for my business.
It’s not okay to stop showing up for my dream and my purpose and my impact.
It’s not okay to slack off and leave you wondering where I went this week.
And when the doughnuts are being treated as weapons of mass destruction instead of the once-in-a-while delicious treats that they are… well, that’s not okay either.
4 Things to remember when your Inner Mean Girl is getting nasty
Remember why you’re here.
Your inner mean girl is going to get her panties in a bunch when you start doing the thing that means the most to you. She wants you to stay small and quiet and insignificant -or- she wants you to be like her: vacuous, superficial, and unhappy.
But you aren’t her. And she’s not you. SO remember why you’re here. Remember why you are in the fight, doing the things that are important to you.
Remember your friends.
Luckily, I had a couple of friends help me off of the ledge. One sent me compassionate and caring messages. And the other (gently) called me out, reminding me that I’ve got this and not to let my inner mean girl win.
So when you find yourself paralyzed by the hurtful things your inner mean girl is telling you, reach out to someone who knows you. Someone who cares. And someone who knows why you’re really here and in the fight.
Remember who you are.
It’s funny (not in a haha way)… how we can say these horrible things to ourselves but would never in a million years say something like that to someone else.
Or is that just me?
For instance, I would never say any of this to another person, but I let my Inner Mean Girl say it to me…
I would never be that mean to someone else. That’s terrible. So why the heck am I being so mean to myself?
Sometimes it’s enough just to remember who you really are. And who you aren’t.
Not to sound too cliché or Hallmark-y, but yeah, remember love.
Reach out for an extra hug.
Cuddle with your cat.
Watch something that reminds you of beauty in the world.
And remember that you are loved.
I am loved, most of all by me. #LoveStartsWithMe
Leave a comment below: how do you handle your inner mean girl?
P.S. For help with taming your Inner Mean Girl, check out the upcoming Good Girl Rehab.