Riding the wave

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When I first moved to California, I was determined that I would learn how to surf. As a teenager in Savannah, Georgia I watched surfing competitions on TV whenever I got the chance and dreamt that someday I would shoot the curl.

So, I came to California imagining sunny, sandy beaches and me surfing like a natural. I rushed over to Santa Cruz and took my first surf lesson and found that this was not the beach I had dreamt of. It was cold. I had to wear a wetsuit. And it was cold.

Still, I loved surfing. The feeling of finding that balance point and being propelled gracefully toward the shore. Cold as I was, I was hooked, and soon bought a used board. I spent many weekends pulling on my wetsuit and booties, paddling out into the frigid Pacific Ocean, and trying my best to catch a wave (which I did a couple of times, though never completely mastered the art).

In the end, I gave up on surfing in Santa Cruz. The water is just too cold for this Southern girl. But I’m happy to surf when we visit the warmer waters of Hawaii, and I learned a lot about life from surfing.
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More than words.

I was having coffee recently with a group of introverted leaders. The group was eclectic, and yet we shared a common experience: the insecurity and struggle of having our voice heard, especially in work or pressure situations.
One of the men in the group mentioned his martial arts instructors, saying they were both introverts but they both had very powerful presence. Do you know someone like that? They don’t have to say a lot, but you feel their strength. This inner presence is something that, as an introvert and leader, fascinates me. And today I want to share some of what I’ve discovered about it.

I made you a short video. I decided it was more important what I said than how I looked so I’m wearing my 40-year-olds-need-glasses glasses, and I’m not even wearing makeup. But don’t let that scare you off. Watch it below:

Are people just born with inner presence? Can anyone cultivate it?

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